
Members of the 1963 American expedition wait for their turn to cross an Everest crevasse. One team member died trying to reach the summit, and the photographer of this picture lost toes and fingers to frostbite.
Photograph by Barry C. Bishop
The world we live in today does not appear to get any easier. Things seem at best unfair, and at worst painful and unbearable. We go from day to day in the hope that the situation will improve in the not too distant future and eventually our lives will take a turn for the better.
More and more people are becoming stressed as each day the world turns into an even crazier place to live. There is no security anymore, what with many folks no longer enjoying good health, getting into debt, losing their jobs and their homes; there really is no wonder their sanity is at risk. The darkness of depression sets in following worry and anxiety about their way of life.
Time magazine featured a story declaring that we have come into the "Age of Anxiety". The constant stress and uncertainties of life in 21st century leaves many people living a existence of total fear and worry.
We are bombarded by newspapers and news stations with stories which go way beyond the point of being described as disturbing. And then, of course, there is the economy which is another great stress factor. With the price of houses rising to an outrageous level, soaring prices of commodities such as gas and electric, people find themselves in a position where they have no choice about their career and have to work in employment which they find to be both boring and without any job satisfaction. The main thing is to be bringing home a decent pay check and this completely takes over everything else.
Women, in trying to be all things to everyone, often have higher stress levels than men. They struggle with the roles of mom, wife, housekeeper, daughter, sibling and pay check earner. When in the midst of all this they forget to take time out for themselves, their stress levels, quite naturally, reach the sky.
Children and teens have peer pressure to put up with. Children who do not manage to get a scholarship to fulfill their dream of going to college, have to find part time employment to be able to provide the extra money because their parents alone cannot afford to send them to college.
Always on the go, we are constantly available either on the Internet or cell phones, I-pods, palm pilots and so on. What happened to setting some time aside to relax and enjoy life? We simply do not do it anymore!
We really should learn to say "NO" sometimes instead of doing things we don't really want to do, but feel we "MUST" do. We continue to say "YES" or "OKAY" only to then feel anxious when things do not get done and tasks start to pile up around us.
There are so many causes of stress, some of which we are not even aware are causing us to reach a state of anxiety. Factors such as regular traveling, buying property, coping with finances, problems with relationships, being the victim of bullying, worrying about examinations, having the in-laws over for a vacation - the list is endless.
Stress is a normal part of our lives but when it starts to completely take over it becomes a problem. When you feel out of control, you become worried and this will undoubtedly result in stress.
The good news is that you do not have to feel stressed anymore. You need to regain control which will put your feelings of anxiety into reverse. YOU CAN DO IT - WE ALL CAN!
Worry is madness and haste is not living in the moment. It's all so preventable, but we are so prone to it. We need quiet each day and we need to be happy in every moment; not blissfully happy, just content happy. We need to centralise our lives in our values, roles, and goals. This is one way to focus on the things we can influence positively.
Fear is behind worry. Haste is due to fear and it's living in either the past or the future; certainly not the present. The true purpose of fear is to teach us about ourselves - fear does not want to conquer us. We must meet fear head on. Fear presents us with opportunities to learn. We have to approach the cusp of fear and go over it. Only then will it disappear into oblivion. It no longer matters. We need to have the courage to find strategies to release the fear in our lives.
We must defeat fear by accepting the strain of the situation. Oswald Chambers has said we're hilarious when we're crushed with difficulties because most of these situations are ludicrously impossible to anyone by God. When we're bold and accept the difficulty and we're prepared to overcome it we have mighty spiritual forces suddenly coming to our aid. Even though we are so predisposed to complain we must stop, jettisoning the typical excuses we so often weaken for. Accepting the tension and strain of the situation gleefully is the tonic to all difficulty.
One solution is living in the present moment. Did you know that it takes more energy and effort and is more draining to worry (i.e. focus on the past or future) than focus perfectly on the task, in the moment? Try it and be amazed. This is the spiritual force honouring your efforts to be diligent and servant-hearted. You would be a fool not to give this a try. This is putting all or our energy into the moment, one-moment-at-a-time. We also need to be propelled in life by a purpose or a dream that gives us something to focus on that is positive; to counter the worrying thoughts that might otherwise cloud the mind. The mind is the key. We need to use the power of our minds to bring discipline, peace, and shape to our souls. We need to be wary of the mind's power to control our mental, emotional, and spiritual equilibrium's. Poor self-talk and a loose mind will wreak havoc. As the Chinese proverb says, "Control your emotion or it will control you."
Bad thinking might not bite you right now, but it will eventually have its consequences. Positive thinking is the same; think good thoughts and eventually you'll attract the right sort of things, the things that are good that you want. We reap what we sow, and this is just as applicable to our thinking as our thinking so often leads to actions.
Don't worry. Don't fret. It only leads to negative consequences. It proves that you're not living in the moment. You see, living in the present moment means you cannot worry effectively.
Stress is on the rise - all the research tells us that. Whilst we have less hardship and disease than our forefathers, the pace of life today is phenomenal and that brings with it a host of different problems. As nature's 'fight or flight' response, stress is very effective if we need to fight for our lives, but not so appropriate in a traffic jam or argument with the boss! When stress builds up and becomes chronic, it affects our health (75% of all visits to the doctor are considered to be stress related), our work, our relationships and our ability to enjoy life.
So what can be done about it?
Stress affects each of us differently, depending on our personality, background and experiences in life, so the first step is to assess a client's stress levels and identify exactly how they are being affected - be it physically (e.g. indigestion, back pain), behaviourally ( e.g. sleep problems, unable to relax ) and/or emotionally (e.g. anxious, depressed). Coaching is a collaborative process and involves helping the client to identify the root causes of their stress and any emotional issues involved, followed by the introduction of effective coping strategies for both short-term and long-term relief.
This therapeutic method is based on the cognitive behavioural model of psychology, and is a solution-focussed yet holistic approach.
Stress coaching usually brings about rapid improvement. Typically the client will have 6 -12 sessions, covering areas such as their goals and ambitions; confidence; self-esteem; communication and assertiveness; emotional self-management (changing unhelpful thoughts, beliefs and attitudes); managing anger; procrastination and time management; lifestyle; balancing work and home; relaxation training and other instant stress busting techniques - the list is endless.
Since coaching is about changing unhelpful attitudes, habits, behaviour or lifestyle, it requires commitment from the client, but with the right encouragement and support this is an exciting and rewarding journey. And one well worth taking - after all, the cost of stress is high.
Jenny Gould is a cognitive behavioural coach, trainer, writer and speaker. She is resident Agony Aunt on BBC Radio Oxford's afternoon show and a trainer with Relate. She has recently been engaged as a speaker on the Queen Mary 2.
Passionate about people and their potential, she has provided personal life coaching and corporate coaching to people from all walks of life, including senior executives, celebrities and those in the media.
How many times have you read a motivational book or attended a seminar and been really fired-up and excited only to have your enthusiasm wane a few weeks later? Why is that?
From an early age our brains are programmed in a negative way, which can restrict our potential. Who can remember as a youngster the word 'no' regularly coming out of our parents mouths!
So if we have limiting beliefs or expectations we will perform accordingly in our life. In order to move forward we would need to change the picture we hold of ourselves in our minds.
The key to successful goal setting is your ability to motivate yourself and stay motivated until you have achieved your goals.
Firstly, let's look at what motivation really is -
• Motivation is not a product of outside influence; it is a natural product of your desire to achieve something and your belief that you are capable of doing it
• Positive goals that are geared toward your pleasure are much more powerful motivators than negative ones that are based on fear. The right combination of both is the most powerful and motivating mix.
Now let's look at what you can actually do to motivate yourself and stay that way.
1. Start with visualizing your future success and model the feelings you'll experience when you achieve it
2. Mentally walk the path towards this success and base your feelings at different milestones on the way
3. Assign a high priority to each task that you must achieve which will give each task a priority in your mind
4. Set a target for the amount of work you will do each day toward your goals
5. Visualize the desired outcome: Create a picture of what the desired outcome will look like, and have this vision in your mind at all times
6. Set milestones of the things you like to do and the things that you are good at
7. Use visual indicators to monitor progress and complete the task
8. Give yourself affirmations to remind yourself of how capable you are at reaching your goals
9. Watch movies that motivate you
10. Listen to music that motivates you
Getting and staying motivated is not as difficult as it may seem. It just takes discipline.
How long does it take to change from what you are to what you will to be? That is a question that I get a lot, and the answer is interesting and even a bit inspiring.
First let us clear up a huge misunderstanding; your transformation is not going to be instantaneous, it takes a while, and so therefore we have the subject of this discussion. Once you have decided what it is that you are going to accomplish, there is a time lag while the universe conspires with you to bring about the situations that will help you achieve that which you desire.
Said another way; after you gain awareness that you can do the thing you want to do, then you will begin developing the mind set that you will do this thing, and this is quickly followed by technique as you perform your will. As you repeat the effort needed it gets easier, and your skill improves, and sooner than you anticipated you have become a different person.
Is there a set time for such accomplishment? Think about it, the time that it takes is completely up to you. If you vigorously apply yourself, then the accomplishment will come sooner. Conversely if you only use your spare time and a half hearted effort then the desire will take longer. Either way when the change becomes apparent to others, in relative terms, then your change did not take very long at all.
Again I hear you ask; "so how long is soon?" Once you begin to apply your will, towards the results you desire, then the effect you have on your life will not take long. The time it takes from setting the goal to accomplishment is relative to the level of the goal. For example; you desire a cup of coffee, so you go to the kitchen and make a pot of coffee, then pour your self a cup. Your desire has been achieved in only a few minutes as the task was simple. On the other hand if your goal was to build the world's tallest building then this may take a few years.
Soon means; in a reasonably short time; and therefore is relative to the complexity of the desire. There have been many "over night success" stories, yet if you do but a little investigation you will see that those "over nights" actually took a few years from setting the goal to accomplishment. Many professional athletes seem to spring from the woodwork as automatic success stories. Becoming over night millionaires seems to be the norm for these sport figures. However once again if you check it out, you would find that these men and women have been pursuing this dream since childhood.
So do you have a desire that you are willing to work for? Make sure you are not merely wishing for the change being considered. If you are not willing to put in any effort then your dream will take a very long time indeed. Ponder this for a moment; wishing is negative. When you wish for something it is an indication that you do not expect to get it. The mental state being discussed here is that of knowing you can be anything you will to be.
You are what you think you are. So now comes a question for you; what do you think of yourself? Remember, no matter what you thought of yourself prior to this moment, you can change the entire outlook of your life by simply changing your mind. Once you have made a decision the change has happened, however the outward manifestation of this change may take from a few minutes to a few years. For example if you today decided to be a doctor, you have changed your life by changing its course, but it will take about eight years before you can wear the title "Doctor."
So do not concern yourself with the time it might take for something to happen, and do not wish you could change, but instead, set a goal and begin to work towards it. You have heard the saying "knowing is half the battle" just remember the other half; is action (sometimes called work). You can not be a great pianist if you never touch the keys. Burn it into your mind; that you are what you think you are, and from this moment onward have a darn good opinion of yourself, and "soon" you will have the results you desire.
You think dreaming and reaching your dreams is difficult? You think only some of the things you dream of may become true? Well, here you have some important steps that help you to work out your path to reaching your important goals. The main thing you have to keep in mind is the fact that the goal should be really important for you and that hard work is expecting you. Still, with the right ingredients and determination, your dreams can and will come true!
1st MILESTONE. Create the perfect environment for the success of the goal. This means you have to establish the place where your goal will happen, when (settle a time - frame) and really important: with whom. Choose the right people to surround you and help you achieve your goal.
2nd MILESTONE. Your behavior towards the people around, the actions happening... your exposure! It is very important to have in mind that the way you let yourself being known will influence a lot your results. If you have a way in which you make yourself pleasant and respected by the rest, if you have your own principles and you respect them, if you have good habits, all of them will ensure you a good starting in every relationship you will start in order to fulfill your goal.
3rd MILESTONE. Thinking way. Positive, goal orientation, determination, solution thinking... these are the key to achieve your goal. Have your mind work with you to help you, make it be your most trustful partner. And use it wisely, in order to reach your goal. Do not settle down, letting your mind take a break - use it constantly so to find solutions, new ideas, identify opportunities, learn along the way and most of all, encourage you to continue! Remember that you can achieve whatever is in your mind, as long as it is there and is well sticked inside!
4th MILESTONE. Passion. If you have a thing, a goal, only in your mind, and your actions are conducted only by rational things, your possibility to succeed goes very low. You have to have your heart along with you also in order to make the best out of difficult situations. If your inner drive ad your mind work together, be sure your goal is very reachable and also, very close! So, take care - choose to do something, as great as possible or as important as possible for you, without being afraid it won't happen - only as long as you have your heart with you!
5th MILESTONE. Work hard and play harder. That means now that you have the ingredients, mix them in order to create your path towards reaching your goal! This path may include really difficult situations, but also the way to get out of them, as a winner! Make sure also you celebrate your success! That is part of gathering energy for what's next! Remember to work in order to have fun, meaning be there for hard work, but be there also for party. Take your partners (human partners, and your mind and heart) and be present and focus to the things you are doing in each moment!
Maybe you know, maybe not, but there is a really true quote that says like this: "when you wish for something with all your heart, the whole universe will work with you to accomplish your dream!"
Every successful entrepreneur has at one time or another spent time setting goals. Goal-setting is one of the most valuable activities anyone can do. People without goals don't know where they are going and they don't know how close or how far away they are from their desired destination. Would you attempt to drive from New York to California without a map? Not likely, unless you don't mind occasionally ending up in Louisiana. Goal-setting is nothing more than laying out the map of how you can get to where you want to go.
Here are ten easy steps to set and achieve goals that will keep you motivated and focused.
1) First of all, make sure it is YOUR goal. Do not attempt to do something just because someone else wants you do. Success comes from owning the process and wanting the outcome. Just because your spouse wants you to work at home does not mean that it's your cup of tea and that you will be successful. Your heart has to be in it all the way. Goals without buy-in are simply wishes.
2) Don't call it a goal. You have to treat it as a done-deal. You know that most people do not keep their New Year's Resolutions. That's because they see them as aspirational, not mandatory. A definite business goal is different. Never forget that success is a mindset. If you Think it, and Believe it, you will Do it. Some people prefer to call goals Promises because studies have shown that people tend to keep promises. As Yoda said, "There is no try. Either you do or you don't."
3)Clearly identify your steps to achieve your outcome and write it down. A common methodology for goal-setting is represented by the moniker S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic, Time-Specific). Each and every goal should have at least these five elements. Vague generalities are not goals. Wanting to do something is different from planning to do something.
When we say goals need to be specific, it needs to have as much detail as you can imagine. Measurable means that it has to have some way to determine whether or not you are making progress or have achieved the desired outcome. Actionable means that you have to be able to "do" something to make it happen. Realistic is important. If you set a goal that you cannot possibly attain, it's a wish. Goals are realistic and then they build on each other. The last element is time-specific. You must set a deadline so you can determine if you are on track toward success. Learning to set SMART goals will make success become almost automatic.
4) Identify things or people who motivate you. The motivation can either be positive (you are happy when you think about achieving it) or negative (the thing or person makes you mad and you want to succeed to spite them). When your confidence is lacking, look to your motivators to keep you focused and on track. For instance, if you are feeling down and don't want to tackle that next project on your to-do list, reward yourself with a positive motivator when you complete your task.
5) Create a Plan for success. Your plan should include a written statement of your objectives, your timeline, your ultimate outcome, and what steps you need to take today to put the plan into action. As time goes on, your plan will change and you will be able to identify the next step. Don't be discouraged if you can't identify every step immediately. Just plan to go as far as you can and adjust along the way. Knowing "why" you want to achieve what you are aiming at is important. If it's in writing, you can limit "goal slippage" and keep yourself focused on what your objectives.
6) Review your Plan every day. Use visual reminders, index cards, posters, photos, -- whatever works for you. Keep it in front of you daily. Put a copy in your car, on the breakfast table, on the bathroom mirror -- anywhere you will be forced to look at it. Make reviewing your goals and your plans a habit as automatic as brushing your teeth every day. The more you review, the more you will be convinced that it can be achieved. Do something every day to move toward your goal. Small progress adds up to big results. If you can spend 5 to 10 minutes each day thinking about your next step, and then putting that step into action your goal will get closer and closer to reality.
7) Tell yourself you will succeed. Self-talk, self-affirmation works. Henry Ford was right: "Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right." The size of the success is determined by the size of the belief. Don't dream small -- dream BIG. It's more fun that way, and you just might surprise yourself and make it.
8) Tell others of your plan. But caution: stay away from nay-sayers. If they are not supportive, do not look to them for support. Surround yourself with positive people and look for people who will support your goals. If you can recruit others to help you, so much the better. When a team of people all focus on one goal and everyone's success, it makes it much more likely to be achieved. Telling others makes you accountable. If your goals are secret and no one else knows whether you succeed or fail, you've lost all opportunity for peer pressure and community support. Peer pressure can be a wonderful motivator.
9) Envision the result and see the conclusion. Any time you feel worried or doubt that you can achieve what you have set out to do, turn it around and think of all you have to be grateful for. You are working toward a better life and you should be proud of yourself. Reaching for a goal, stretching yourself beyond where you are is growth. A person who is growing is becoming more of the person they were put on this earth to be.
10) Get started today. After all, when is the best time to set a goal? ... NOW! Procrastination will not create results. There will never be a "right" time, a "perfect" moment to change your life. There's no reason to wait because you never know what tomorrow brings. Every journey starts with one step, and your journey to success starts with deciding what you want to achieve and setting a path to get there. It doesn't take more brains, or more talent, or more money, or more anything. Everyone has within them the power and ability to achieve almost anything if they truly want it and believe in themselves. So don't sell yourself short. Just go for it.
Good luck and set those goals high. Success is within your reach. You just need to take action.
"You can't change your life until you change what you do everyday"
John C. Maxwell
Steve was an employee on one big shipping company. Steve was a smart, brilliant, but he was a lazy person. He was working at that company almost 5 years, but his career is not moving at all.
Brandon was an employee on that company too. Brandon was hardworking, not careless, and positive personality. But, Brandon is not smart as Steve. Brandon got promotion in his 3rd years of working.
What the illustrations told us about? Why Steve didn't got promotion even he was smart person? Why Brandon got promotion even he's not smart as Steve?
What Steve do everyday with his lazy personality, even he's was as smart person, he was not improving himself at all. But, what Brandon do everyday with his positive personality, he was feed his personality everyday with good experiences, good character, and good minded.
We can change our life into the better one if we commit to change it. John C. Maxwell with his statement, want to show us that a better life will come to us if we search it everyday. If we want in future we have a better position on company, then you should do your jobs the best everyday on that company. And then position will come to you.
So, how we can change our life?
1. Change Everyday. Always do today jobs better than yesterday jobs.
2. Positive Minded. Thinking the good things and throw away the bad think.
3. Commitment. Commit with your decisions to change.
4. Sacrifice. No Sacrifices, No Success.
"You Can't Change Your Life Until You Change What You Do Everyday"
In a house at the end of a cul-de-sac an old man lives a hermit-like existence. If he had his way would have nothing to do with the rest of the world, because more than anything else in life this old man values his privacy and peace and quiet.
He wakes one day to the sound of three small boys playing football in the street just outside his house. There not being yobbish in any way, but it's a warm day in the school holidays and they're having fun and making noise.
Given what we know, we might expect that the old man would react to this by bursting out of the house, swearing profusely and waving his arms in the air.
"Boys!" he booms as he walks down the path, "How nice it is to see young people enjoying themselves. I'm always hearing about kids today moping around all day and yet here you are enjoying just simply kicking a ball around on a sunny day. I used to play football when I grew up a few streets from here and I can tell you that watching you has brought back some lovely memories. You've cheered me up so much I think you deserve a reward. Here's £5 each!"
The boys are naturally wary, but they decide to pocket the money and they return to playing football as the old man returns in doors.
The next day they're back and once again the old man comes out to speak to them. "Ah boys", he says enthusiastically, "I was thinking about what happened yesterday and I decided to phone my boyhood friend Eric; we haven't spoken in years. We've decided to go for a pint on Saturday. I can't tell you how happy this has made me so, go on, have another £5 each"
The boys willingly accept the money and as the old man goes back into his house, they begin to discuss the different ways they could spend their windfall. They're back the next day and the same thing happens. They come back the day after and the same thing happens.
On the fifth day the old man comes out to greet them but without any of the cheerfulness at all.
"Boys", he says, his voice grave and serioys "Please believe me when I say I meant everything I said. You have cheered me up and I'm really, really pleased that we met up, but It's a while before my next pension payment and things are very tight financially. Tell you what, how about a penny each?"
"A penny! Are you serious?" asks the oldest boy. "We've been used to £5! I can't believe this. Come on we're going."
With that he and his friends scoop up their ball and disappear never to be seen again. The old man has his tranquil life restored for a paltry60 which is very good value as far as he is concerned.
If you want to destroy motivation, take a group of people who are performing learning and enjoying (as the boys were to begin with) and orient them towards financial rewards instead. Then meddle with them or take them away and I guarantee motivation will never recover.
If you'd prefer to see motivation improve do it the other way round. Coaching will help you discover the way each individual balances performance, learning and enjoyment in their role and you can relax knowing that you no longer have to rely only on financial rewards.
As I began preparing to write this article, I was reminded of a statement made by Earl Nightingale, a pioneer in the field of self development, that the vast majority of people have no idea of the mind power they possess from birth and it is given to us for FREE!. He went on to give this analogy. Imagine one of those giant earth-moving machine at a construction site, a huge and incredible machine, with a little person perched way up on top with the wheel in his/her hands controlling it.
How striking that analogy is to the human mind, and it offers a powerful clue as to what is necessary to begin mastering your mind power. The enormous machine will carry many tons of earth wherever the operator desires that it should go, but it takes the little person at the controls to give it direction.
It was over 40 years ago when Mr. Nightingale made that statement and gave that analogy. Amazingly, little has changed in terms of the lack of knowledge and understanding of the mind power each of us possesses and how you can take control of it.
Most people give little thought to their minds and the tremendous power within them to do, to be, and to have more of what they would like to have in their lives. It seems that for the first few years of their lives they literally have no control over their minds and what they think.
Look at your own life. During those early years, the control of your mind was exercised by your environment, your parents and care-givers, for the most part. Then the educational and religious systems take their share of control in shaping what you learned to think, and perhaps even more importantly, shaping the limitations that were placed in your thinking.
Unfortunately, by the time you exited high school, your habitual patterns of thinking may as well have been set in concrete, and those habitual thinking patterns were essentially placed there by someone other than you. The consequences for you, however, were by the time you reached adulthood, most of your dreams were buried beneath hundreds or even thousands of negative, dream-sapping beliefs.
How many courses were you offered on the power of positive thinking in school? How many courses were you offered that taught you wealth-building principles in school? How many courses were you offered that taught you how your mind functions and how you can control it and direct it toward more of what you desire to be, to do and to have? Yet the very kinds of courses that were not offered to you were the very kinds of courses you must have to build a more successful, more fulfilling, and happier life.
Here is something I know for sure, however, you can claim or re-claim control of your own mind power. You are the most miraculous of all living beings on earth. You are the owner of a mind that is so stupendous, that as you truly begin mastering your mind power and consciously using it, there is no dream that you can dream that you cannot achieve.
You want to know what I think? I think too many of you are trying too hard, doing too much and not achieving what you really want anyway. You are not achieving because there are too many things in the way: unnecessary obligations at work, at home, with friends.
You can burn out by trying too hard to hold on to too much information. You alter the way you live your life to accommodate others' needs before your own. Holding on too hard will wear you out. In order to live your life instead of someone else's you have to reinvent the way you live it. You can reinvent your life. You can transform your life from what you have been to what you desire. Transformation will allow you to be who you want to be.
Transformation will alter your outlook on yourself and others. ? Transformation will help make all things possible. Just know that you can reinvent the way you live your life now and create the life you really want.
All You Have To Do
All you have to do is practice The Three Steps once a day, once a week, or once a month; just do it. You have already taken the first step; you have decided to take back your life. What follows is a sequence that can strengthen your intention.
First, you stop what no longer works in order to make room to create what you want.
Second, you start to take care of yourself in a way you have never done before.
Third, you create your desire, what is most important to you and then, your fulfilling life. What do you need? All you need is the willingness to take time and make yourself the priority in your life. So, go out and get a notebook and label it your Lighting Your Path! Journal, grab a pen and let's get going.
You are not alone - I am right here.
1, 2, 3 - RED LIGHTS STOP ME! What are the Red Lights in your life? What is stopping you?
Here are twelve clues that may help you:
1.You find yourself too tired to get out of bed.
2.You find yourself drinking loads of coffee just to get going in the morning.
3.You find yourself angry with everyone - a lot.
4.The idea of you having any fun and relaxation makes you laugh hysterically.
5.You are gaining weight.
6.You are losing weight.
7.You start the day unhappy and depressed.
8.You find yourself complaining all the time.
9.Your kids walk quietly around the house-a new thing.
10.Your spouse/partner is in hiding.
11.Your children, friends and peers are avoiding you.
12.You take care of others instead of yourself.
How can you help yourself? It's time to start making a list of your RED LIGHTS. This process is not a one-size-fits all, but it could be!
Follow the THREE STEPS to create your life the way you want. Remember, in order to reinvent yourself, in order to create the life you want, you need to get rid of what you don't want, what doesn't work for you, in order to create the space to do what sparks your spirit.
"I haven't talked to Spalding yet tonight," he said as he scanned down a list of the people who worked for him. "We'll head that way next. And I've got to talk to Smith about that complaint, so we'll meet her for coffee later."
Books about leadership make it seem like what leaders do is mostly strategy and mostly cosmic. Reality is different.
For most leaders, most of the time, leadership is a round of daily actions that help the team accomplish the mission while they help team members do better and grow. In other words, the results of your leadership spring mostly from what you do every day as part of the natural rhythm of work.
Every day you need to make your expectations clear. Master the art of giving clear directions. Deliver the same core messages over and over.
Every day you need to check for understanding. Don't let people leave your presence without checking to make sure that they understand what you want.
Every day you need to make sure to touch base with your people. Make sure they're turning understanding into performance. Great supervisors touch base a lot.
Every day you need to use every one of those contacts as an opportunity to improve team performance and morale. They're real "Moments of Truth." Here's what to do in those moments.
Coach the team members who need it. Help them succeed, along with the team. Encourage good behavior and honest effort to do better. Praise improvement and effort. Correct what needs correcting. Small course corrections are best. Think of problems as dinosaurs that are much easier to kill when they're small.
Counsel those that need it. For those who can't or won't change, lay out the consequences if things don't improve. Then make sure you deliver the consequences. It's your job. Every day you need to do the hard work of weeding out the unfit and the unwilling. Making sure you meet all the requirements for a fair and final firing is hard work, but it has a big impact on productivity and morale. Slackers and malcontents are cancers that kill your team.
Don't succumb to magical thinking about management. It's what you do every day, not magic traits that will improve your team's productivity and morale.
In the modern scenario we are need the internet to get our work done. This generation of employees are those who have been used to having computers at work always and it is a wonder to note that for several generations in the past people worked without computers, internet, telephones etc. It is unbelievable that these people were productive at work.
In the past when I was employed I would enjoy the time I got due to server collapse leading to inaccessibility of internet. This was a great alibi to take the much needed interval at work and that too with a clear conscience. But now in present day scenario if a server goes down it is a big menace and more so in the kind of business I am involved with. Server collapses sour up my feelings and increases my heartbeat and makes me sweat. To sum up I feel totally lost and helpless without internet.
Last week there was a server breakdown for almost five hours continuously and I had no clue what to do. But I somehow dug up in my files and found couple of assignments that could be done without internet and somehow spent the rest of the day. These projects are among those which we generally postpone thinking that we will do it later. But recently I came across an article which told me how to use time productively when internet was inaccessible.
One can do lots of things and not feel tensed of paranoid about internet being down. These things are not pastimes but productive work projects which can yield profitable results. Internet outage time is the best time to take up all those trivial tasks you left thinking of doing later. Responding to old emails, reading work related magazine and newspaper articles, chatting up with colleagues and even taking a long coffee break just to enjoy the flavour of coffee as it descends down from lips to tongue down into the stomach through the throat and gullet.
Another task one can effectively achieve during an internet disconnection is to optimize your working space in the computer. Housekeeping your files, putting them in the right folders, creating new folders for new projects or recent ones, deleting junk or old unusable files, uninstall programmes which you think have far outlived their utility, update your contact list. Once you get on to doing these things you will be surprised to see how much you could achieve despite internet being down. These are things which are easy, routine and small but we never sit down to do it because we are usually in front of the computer on the internet, either checking e-mail or just simply browsing.
In the current fast paced workplace scenario where retrace has taken over our lives, an internet server collapse may actually be a boon in disguise. We will get time to stop and evaluate where we are headed towards. This will provide the much time for ourselves, this may be the only time we get. It is interesting to note that most of us prefer to browse the internet for trivia than do any productive work offline like filing our reports or updating our address book. Strange isn't it?
It can be hard to find the time you need to do everything. Consider doing a few key things instead of trying to do everything. To do this, start with 5 simple ideas for managing time that include writing things down, prioritizing tasks, reviewing appointments, blocking out time for getting things done, and remaining flexible in your plans. Following are these five ideas with tips to make your planning more effective.
1. Write down everything you need to do in the same tool.
Great time managers always keep a "to do" list handy for jotting down action items, work tasks, project activities, and ideas they come to mind. The list of tasks should be kept in a convenient location like a notebook, a planner system, or in an electronic system. If you always keep adding to your list, you will know what needs to be done because you can find the list whenever you start to plan what to do each day.
2. Review your tasks and prioritize the items at the same time each day.
This can be done in the morning of the date you plan to work on the items or in the evening of the day before for tomorrow's items. Determine priorities for each item. Such as high or must do items for the day, medium level items or everyday business, and low priority things that can be put off until another time.
3. Look at your list of appointments for the day and determine which are important to do on this day.
Plan what you need for the important appointments you need to keep, so you will have everything ready before the appointment starts as this will save time during the appointment. Be sure to include paper and pen for taking notes or writing down actions. Then determine what you need to do with appointments you can not keep, such as canceling a lunch date or sending a substitute to a meeting.
4. Schedule blocks of time in your day to work on your to do list.
Schedule high priority items at your peak time, when you are typically most attentive and alert. Then schedule the medium priority items in the remaining time or after appointments. Whenever possible, schedule similar items and errands all in the same time block. For instance plan to make all outgoing calls in the same hour or read and respond to emails during two small blocks of time each day. Concentrating the time spent on the phone or with email, will actually reduce the interruptions they usually cause when working on other key items that have been blocked for your peak periods.
5. Allow for flexibility in your schedule. In other words, don't over schedule yourself.
In an eight hour time period, you should only plan for 6 hours of medium to high-priority work and appointments. This way your plan is not greatly disrupted if an emergency or crisis situation comes up that you must handle. If little comes up during the flex time, then you can work on something else on your to do list that was not part of the original plan or give yourself a few minutes of down time to unwind and reduce stress or use the time to think creatively.
These five ideas and tips will make your planning more effective and you should become more efficient using them as you time goes by. Remember you can't do everything, so concentrate on doing key things by writing them down, prioritizing tasks, reviewing appointments, blocking out time for working on important items, and remaining flexible. You will find that time management will become easier with time and practice.
Shirley Fine Lee has considerable training and expertise in leading effective meetings and projects, as well as training others within the corporate world to be able to do the same. Her book, "R.A!R.A! A Meeting Wizard's Approach", is a much-needed guide to planning and conducting meetings so that they are as productive, effectual, and smoothly run as possible. Find out more about her, her books, and learning options she provides on her website.
Shirley LeeEveryone has 24 hours in a day, only. How fast you can reach your goals in life really depends on how well you can manage these precious 24 hours. But truth be told, do we really have twenty four hours to begin with?
For the average men in a twenty-four day, 8 hours are already spent in their sleep. When you consider the 2 hour for meal time and another 2 for traveling time, half of twenty-four hours are already spent without any work done. Now let's take into account the time spent on recreation and hobbies, with friends and miscellaneous activities such as exercising and Facebook-ing. That would bring the 12 hours to a 15.
In other words, the average men have 9 hours per day for doing productive work, the rest are spent on work-unrelated activities. Take note, the hours spent on jobs are not factored in yet.
Some people understand the importance of this, that's why there are people who reduce their sleeping, eating and recreational time; and people who start trying polyphasic sleep (an alternate sleeping pattern to the conventional monophasic sleep), photoreading (a more effective variant of speed reading), audio learning tool for en route and expensive instant fixes to make the most out of each second and save more time in their life.
Here are 7 ways to save more time in your life:
1. Cut back on television and the Internet
With the increasing popularity of catching shows on video sharing sites, online videos must be taken into account too. The fastest way to start saving time is to cut down on the hours spent on watching shows. Not that I am putting the billion dollar industry down, but most likely, they are not the top priority for now.
2. Create routine
It is common sense that if you practise something every day, you're bound to be good in it. Create routines for your daily life. Once you have adapted to the routine, it is much easier to get things done with minimal distractions.
Secondly, by familiarizing with a daily routine, it is much easier to find out smarter and faster ways of doing things.
To start: Identify recurring activities that you have to perform, it can be work-related or domestic chores. Connect them together to form a flowing sequence of steps. Now, maintain the new routine until it becomes your second nature.
3. Find alternatives
Once a routine has been set and maintained for some time, it becomes possible to start noticing some repetitive patterns, redundant steps or time-saving shortcuts. Trim whatever is unnecessary and test out the shortcuts, it will save you time.
To start: Think back on those times when your gut feelings tell you that you are putting in more time and effort than the result you are getting. If the routines can be further improved upon, test them out. Time is precious.
4. Organize and categorize
Still remember the 9 hours we have left for real work? More often than not, trying to locate anything in a mess takes some time. This can seriously cost you a bomb, in terms of both lost opportunity costs and distraction from the clutter which will take up your time again. A logical system of categorization will save you time by allowing to get what you need the instant you need it.
If you have to frequently refer to archives or retrieve goods from a logistics nightmare, keeping the archives and inventories organized will definitely save time.
To start: If you have ever faced similar problems, the best thing to do is to reserve a date to organize and tackle the mess.
5. Multi-task
This is rather subjective. Some actions should never be multi-tasked, such as reading the news while having dinner; or messaging your friends on the cellphone while driving. It is public consensus that they pose certain risk to our health or others' safety. Otherwise, it is possible to multi-task in order to save time.
I know of a friend who is no stranger to multitasking. He lifts weights while reading, trains his mind while sleeping (he uses a brainwave entrainment audio program) and easily alternates between his workloads. He had proven to me that he can perform them with ease, but it comes with practice.
To start: It is not necessary to become an eight-legged octopus like my friend. For a start, it is better to get accustomed to the aforementioned routine first. Multitasking will follow naturally. If you like to get hands on now, consider scanning your computer for spyware as you read this.
6. Plan ahead of distractions
The 'Law of Straight Line' in Simple-ology says it best. The shortest distance between two points is a straight line. It applies to anyone and their tasks at hand. The problem lies with distractions which draw us away from our tasks and cause everyone to take long and unnecessary detours instead of a straight path.
You have to plan ahead of these distractions to avoid them.
To start: For physical distractions such as noise, interruption and clutter, you can either remove them or avoid them. For mental distractions such as, temptations, or self-sabotaging thoughts like irrational fear (will be covered below), you may want to try processes like the 'Emotional Freedom Technique' (EFT).
7. Deal with self-sabotage
A lot of precious time is wasted on negative thoughts and thoughts that do not bear result. You may have met someone who spent days crying over spilled milk or absolutely refuse to move an inch due to irrational fear. Morally speaking, they have the right to mourn for their losses or worry about their 'safety'. Logically speaking, if their emotions are pulling them back to that extent, they have to start learning to deal with their emotions. It is taking up too much of their precious time.
To start: If you feel that your emotions are dragging your productivity down the drain, try to find out what is causing that emotion exactly. Be honest and avoid excuses, once you have pinpoint it, overcome it with 'EFT' or 'Sedona'.
Run through the 7 ways again and remember this:
"Time may be a man-made concept, but it cannot be created. Hold this truth close to your heart and bear it in your mind."
Everybody in business and politics knows that innovation is vitally important, yet companies still struggle to innovate on a continual basis. One of the reasons for this is that there is considerable confusion about what innovation is (its definition); the vocabulary of innovation; and innovation's associated constructs. The following facts about innovation help reduce some of this confusion:
Understand the above and you will be well on your way to understanding innovation and making it happen at your own organization.